Saturday, 17 April 2010
To Show You How My Heart Beats
I've been dipping into Talkability recently, a speech & behaviour therapy book that helps you to communicate better with your child and teach them social skills.
One of the chapter's I've been concentrating on is responding to your child's cues to start a conversation. Apparently they're more likely to respond if the topic is one of their choice.
I find it hard to talk with Lyla.
Firstly because she often ignores me, gives one word answers or if she does respond says something so confusing and way-out that it stumps me. And then she runs off.
So, when she came in this morning and put this empty red sweet wrapper in my lap, my first instinct was to put it in the bin.
But, having swallowed a whole chapter of Talkability last night, I used her action to try and engage her.
So, I said her name, then asked her what it was for, then paused - apparently this silence is a very important cue for an autistic child.
After a few seconds wait, she turned around, looked me right in the eye and said 'To show you how my heart beats mummy- it means I love you'.
I'm still beaming, it's such a privilege for me to be 'let in' to her world.
Let's hope there's lots more to come....